So I have no idea what to say about naps.
There are days when E goes down at 1 or 2 and naps for 1-3 hours. No muss no fuss.
Other days, she will resist the nap until 7. I will put her down, she will be napping and her will power will just overpower the nap. And she will howl until I know she’s on the verge of puking. But then she sleeps for an hour, wakes up cranky as hell, but won’t go to sleep and just stays awake until midnight/1am, which is exhausting.
We’ve also had days where she’s just napped on the go (after a dr’s appt when we’re out without a choice in the matter) without a problem.
I have no fucking clue. Scheduling doesn’t work for us…she’s doing a lot of doctor’s appointments right now (trying to find a local team or the closest thing to it), and she DOES scream herself to the point of puking and hysteria at which point she isn’t napping at ALL so re-ferberizing isn’t working.
My best guess is that she’s hitting some sort of growth spurt/developmental change and she’s trying to work it out. It doesn’t seem super rare for a two year old to not nap every day, and she’s now 20 months old. We’re getting old enough that I’m going to put it in terms of quiet time. Nap/don’t nap…but you need quiet time. I have read that sleep disruption between 18-24 months is also common because of all the mental activity that’s going on…and we’re certain mid-language explosion…and that the reason kids in this age group have trouble sleeping/napping is that there’s just too much neural activity happening. At least her night time sleep is stable (knock wood).
Mostly I’m just going to roll with it. I’m going to stop trying to schedule around naps that just don’t happen predictably. We’ll just go about our lives and if she naps, great. If she doesn’t, she doesn’t.