At gymnastics today, an older girl (2 years) randomly reached out and shoved Elanor hard enough that E went to the floor. My jaw fell open and I immediately picked E up who had started crying. I then turned to the little girl and asked her to say “sorry.” THIS is the point where her mom steps in and says “she’s only 2.” She did follow it up with an “is she okay?” but there was no interaction where she told her daughter “no shoving” or to say sorry to E.
This is the point where I morphed into SuperBitch and snapped back “My daughter is 19 months and says sorry when she shoves or hits.”
E melted down minutes later. She wouldn’t let me put her down, she kept asking for food, and the class was maybe five minutes away from ending, so I just let the teacher know we were heading out and we left.
I also, with full knowledge that the other helper sitting in the waiting room was the mother of the girl who shoved Elanor, spent the few minutes it took to get E’s shoes on, get mine on and to pack up the stroller, venting about idiot parents who think their PRESHUSH BAY-BEES are too young to learn manners.
I am not mad that E got shoved. Toddlers and pre-schoolers have poor manners.
I am FURIOUS with the mother. I was, in fact, so furious that I had a deep urge to punch the mom. I am not a violent person. I also realize that wanting to punch someone does not teach MY daughter to not hit.
I guess part of it is that I had a lot of students over the years whose parents bought into the “my child is only….therefore they can’t/don’t understand/aren’t old enough to….” This little girl, if the mom doesn’t shape up and wake up, will one day be just as big a brat as the parent who would stand there and insist that HER son didn’t (mouth off/cheat on a test/ disobey direct safety instructions) while her son sat there admitting he did it. While he’d admit the infraction, he did so only because he knew there were no consequences to be had.